Learning

Teach children to speak.

To read.

To write.

Teach them how to think.

NOT what to think.

Teach them to think critically.

Teach them to ask questions.

Show them how to find answers to their questions.

Nurture their curiosity.

Offer them help when they need it.

Then, for heaven’s sake, get out of their way.

I’m not saying they should be allowed to spend all day on social media.  Or playing video games.

Give them supervision.  Make sure they’re learning something.

Make sure they know the skills they’ll actually need as an adult.

Give them the resources they need.

Don’t force them to memorize a bunch of facts, regurgitate them onto a test, then never use them again.

Help them find their talents and grow them.

Let them run around and play when they need to.  They’ll focus better afterwards.

Don’t turn learning into drudgery.

Someone who loves learning will become a lifelong learner and make a great contribution to the world.

Someone who hates learning will become a dullard who never picks up a book again after they finish school.

I’m an extreme introvert

I need a lot of time to myself.  Being  around people drains my energy.  Being alone recharges me.  When I don’t get time to myself I get tired, frustrated.

I generally prefer small groups when I am with people.   I enjoy being around my family the most.

I don’t like dealing with strangers.

I’m not good at talking.  Especially small talk.  I’m better at writing. It gives me time to think about what I want to say.  I can go back and edit/proofread it.

 Talking on the phone is the worst.  I lose the benefits of talking to someone in person without gaining any of the benefits of writing.
A lot of the things I enjoy are one-person activities: video games, programming, surfing the intarwebs, reading, model building, drawing, writing, etc.

I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings

I need to tell my story.  Or at least my side of the story.

I’m a terrible speaker.  I forget most of what I want to say.

I’m an introvert.  Writing comes more naturally to me.  I can put down what I remember.  I can add more later.  Then I can make it make sense after that.

I’m not trying to accuse anyone of anything.

I’m not trying to “out” anyone.

I don’t want to embarrass anyone.

I don’t want revenge.

I need to be understood.  So I’m telling my story.

I avoid naming names.  I don’t want to embarrass anyone.  I leave out details to avoid that.

Some people’s feelings get hurt anyway.  I’m sorry about that.

I’ve made a lot of bad choices in my life.  I guess my blog’s no different.

I hope I don’t alienate anyone.