- Pray every morning
- Pray every night
- Read the Book of Mormon every day
- Watch inspirational videos every day
- Pay tithing
- Go to church every Sunday
- Receive my endowment
- Read books by General Authorities
- Give myself quiet time to think every day
- Follow inspiration and revelations I’m given
- Spend lots of quality time with my boys
- Be as spiritual as possible
- Eat well
- Exercise regularly
- Make a meaningful contribution to the world
- Help others make a meaningful contribution to the world
- Spend time with people who care about me
- Avoid negative people
- Get plenty of sleep
I’m not a shining example of “Good Mormon.”
I’ve struggled with pornography most of my adult life.
I’ve lied countless times. I don’t want people thinking bad things about me.
I’ve been inactive in the Church for most of my adult life.
It would be easier to just leave the Church completely.
But I don’t.
I know it’s true.
Turning my back on the Church would be like turning my back on myself.
When I was twenty-four I hadn’t gone to church for several years.
I felt like I needed to go back. I was afraid to talk to a bishop. Afraid to confess my sins.
I decided to take some religion classes. I could get some spirituality in my life without any pressure.
After about six months I decided to go to church.
I only went for Sacrament meeting. I didn’t go in the chapel. I sat out in the foyer and listened.
After a few months I had my records transferred to that ward.
I started sitting in the chapel during Sacrament meeting.
Eventually I started going to all the meetings.
Then one day in priesthood meeting one of the other guys told me a group of guys were going to see a movie together. He asked if I’d like to come.
I got spooked.
I didn’t go back to church for awhile.
I slowly started going again, eventually going to all the meetings.
Then one Sunday it happened.
Just before Sacrament the Bishop’s Secretary came up to me. He asked if I could see the Bishop after the meeting.
This was it.
The Bishop had just wanted to meet me. I spilled my guts anyway.
I felt so much better afterward.
I started meeting with him every week.
At that point I decided I’d better find out for myself if the Church was really true.
I’d believed it was for years. I was never quite sure, though.
I’d been reading the Book of Mormon on and off for several months.
I’d never finished the whole thing.
I decided now was the time.
I finished it. Then I prayed about it.
I got a feeling I’d never felt before.
I knew it was true.
I still do.
Don’t worry about finding the right person. Become the right person.
– Source Unknown
The first step to being the right person is loving yourself.
I’ve hated myself for a long as I can remember.
I’m working on loving myself now. I feel pretty good about myself now. I’ve got a lot of bad qualities, but there are a lot of good ones, too. I can work on the bad ones, and the good ones can always get better.
My relationships with my boys are more important than any romantic relationships right now. I’m a better father than I’ve been in the past, but there’s still plenty of room for improvement.
I’m not satisfied with a lot of things in my life right now.
I want to be able to go to the temple, and that’s not something I can do right now. I want to improve my spirituality and get to the temple.
I’ve been doing phone jobs for most of my life. I hate talking on the phone. I ‘m burned out and I really need to do something else.
I’m not healthy. I’m fat. I go for walks, but not every day. I don’t eat healthy. I’m on an antidepressant and blood pressure meds. I want to get off those.
I need to start reading books on a daily basis. I want to learn and develop new skills.
I want to be my own boss. I wants to build websites and make money from those.
I want to be able to afford to support myself, my wife and kids. I want my mom to be able to stop working.
I don’t feel like I have to self-actualize before pursuing a romantic relationship. I do want to get moving in the right direction and make some real progress first.
Making the changes I want will make me a different person. Someone who would fall in love with the man I am now wouldn’t fall in love with the man I want to become.
The woman I really want to marry is someone who’d love that guy.