People are afraid to speak up.
To let others know what they think. What they believe.
Afraid to let others see who they really are.
They don’t feel good enough.
That was me. I was afraid. I thought I’d lose all my friends. No one would ever want to talk to me again.
But I knew something had to change.
I spoke up (so to speak).
I’m a very flawed human being.
Everyone else is flawed, too.
Tell your story.
Let people see the real you.
That’s how people connect. At least, I think that’s how it works.
I’m not an expert. I’m just a guy with a blog.
But it’s helped me.
I’ve always been the first one to say, “I love you.” I always say, “Not next time.” But I always do.
Vulnerability is scary.
I’ve felt a lot of shame in my life. I’ve thought, “If people knew the real me, they wouldn’t like me.”
The result seems to have been the opposite.
No one has told me how terrible I am.
People have actually said some really nice things. About me. About things I’ve written.
I feel like I’m just getting started.
Paradoxically, being vulnerable has made me feel better about myself.
It’s made me feel stronger.
You should try it.
I was ashamed.
I let fear run my life.
I lied because I was afraid of what she’d say. Afraid of what she’d do. Afraid of how she’d feel.
Would she do if she thought I was as awful as I thought I was? Would she leave me?
I thought I was a terrible person. I couldn’t let anyone know how terrible I was. No one would want to be with someone as terrible as me.
I was never good enough for me.
I had to pretend to be someone else. To conceal my true self.
To wear a mask.
Wearing a mask all the time is exhausting. I was always afraid of being found out.
The only time I could relax was when I was alone.
I’m tired of wearing a mask.
I’m tired of being afraid.
Taking the mask off is scary.
People will judge me.
What if no one likes me anymore?
What if I lose everyone and everything I care about?