Affirmations

A few months ago The Daily Positive changed hands.

The new owner seemed a little hippy-dippy, but I liked most of the things she wrote.

I started getting email updates more frequently and reading more articles.

On the site there was a link to a free audio download.  400+ Powerfully Positive Affirmations Audio.  On the page there was a challenge.  Listen to the audio every day for 30 days.  See if you feel more positive.

My first experience with affirmations came after I broke up with my first fiancée.

A lady I worked said I should try something.  Look at myself in the mirror.  Tell myself, “I’m a good person who loves my self and deserves to be happy.”  She said I should do this ten times every morning.

It felt ridiculous.  I did it anyway.

I think it worked.  I felt better about myself than I had in a long time.

I was skeptical, but I downloaded the audio.

I tried it for a month.

I think it helped.

It certainly didn’t hurt.

10 things I can do to start living my life to the fullest

  1. Meditate
  2. Do things that scare me
  3. Create
  4. Express myself
  5. Help others
  6. Teach my boys
  7. Love
  8. Spend time around positive optimists
  9. Experiment/Try new things
  10. Share my experiences

Music

Does the music you listen to make you feel good?

There’s nothing wrong with listening to sad music when you feel sad.  It can help you feel better.

Do you listen to sad songs all the time.  Do you feel sad most of the time?  Trying changing it up.

Say you listen to a lot of angry music.  There’s a good chance you feel angry most of the time.  You might want to try something new.

If what you listen to encourages negative behavior, it might be a good idea not to listen to it.

There’s nothing wrong with having negative emotions.  We all have them.  But if you feel that way all the time there’s a problem.

Try listening to things that make you feel happy.  Songs about fun times.  Happy times.  Love songs.  Even something spiritual.

I have a feel-good playlist on YouTube.  Feel free to listen to it.  Or you can make your own.

Try listening to happier music.

It will help you feel happier.

10 ways to live well

  1. Spend lots of quality time with my boys
  2. Be as spiritual as possible
  3. Eat well
  4. Exercise regularly
  5. Make a meaningful contribution to the world
  6. Help others make a meaningful contribution to the world
  7. Spend time with people who care about me
  8. Avoid negative people
  9. Travel
  10. Get plenty of sleep

Trying to be authentic

One of the problems I have with social media is that most people only show the good part of their lives.

I’m all for positivity.

But surely not everything in your life is wonderful.

Surely you have bad days.

I want to know who my friends really are.  Good and bad.

I haven’t been one to share much of anything.

I’m making up for that now.  😉

“What do you care what other people think?”

I try not to.  But I do.

I worry if I write too many good things about myself people will think I’m bragging.  That I’m full of myself.  Maybe that’s why I write so many negative things about myself.

There are a lot of things I do that I don’t want to do.  Mostly those are things other people want me to do.

I’m a people-pleaser.  I want people to like me.  To love me.

That’s not such a bad thing by itself.

I do things that make me unhappy to make other people happy.  That’s when it becomes a problem.

When I become a doormat.

I need to love myself more

I’ve spent a lot of my life not loving myself.

Hating myself, even.

I suspect that’s a big part of the reason I’ve failed at so many things.

Then I beat myself up for being a failure.

I know I need to love myself if I’m going to be successful.  I’ve been working on it, but it’s not easy.

A big part of it is not saying and thinking negative things about myself.  Or at least saying and thinking more positive than negative.

If anyone has any suggestions for anything that’s worked for them I’d appreciate them.