Sometimes I’m thick-headed.
Sometimes I have to be taught a lesson multiple times.
Those lessons can be painful.
Lessons like, “Get to know someone really well before deciding to marry them.”
Or, “Don’t have sex with someone you’re not married to.”
I think I’ve finally learned those lessons now.
I hope so. They’ve come at a high price.
“You must unlearn what you have learned.”
– Master Yoda
There’s a famous story that goes something like this:
A skilled martial artist came to Bruce Lee. He was seeking training and wisdom.
Bruce Lee told him he needed to empty his cup. The man’s cup was full of his own knowledge. He would have to empty it first. Then it could be filled with new, better knowledge.
We have to be open to the possibility of our ideas being wrong. Otherwise we can’t really learn. We can’t really change for the better.
I’m wrong a lot. I might even be wrong about being wrong.
Advice is ultimately autobiography. Don’t listen to people where the advice is coming from a pedestal. That’s how snake oil is created.
– James Altucher
He’s younger than me. Even more foolish.
He hasn’t made the same bad choices. Not yet.
Maybe he won’t with some helpful advice.
Or some scare tactics.
He’s me. But younger.
Maybe he’s you, too.
I can’t un-choose my bad choices.
But maybe you can make better ones.
Maybe you can learn what I learned.
Without the pain.