Prince EA – We need to talk about mental health

There’s too much negativity in this world.  It’s made us sick.

I only have one issue with what Prince EA says:

We can’t rely on government.  We can’t rely on schools.

We need to solve our own problems.

We need to be positive as individuals.

I’m not saying we should ignore anything negative.  Ignoring problems doesn’t make them go away.

But we should focus on what’s positive.  What’s good.  What we can do to help.

Take care of yourself.

Do what you can for others.

Encourage them to do the same.

Make your world a better place.

Missing my boys

Sometimes when I can’t be with my boys it hurts. It feels like there’s a huge hole in my heart.

Other times I’m fine.

I don’t know what makes the difference.

When I was younger I would dream about marriage. I wanted to get married as far back as I can remember.

Fatherhood was something I rarely gave any thought.

I figured I would have kids at some point. I didn’t think about it beyond that.

Sometimes it’s all I can think about now.

I want to spend as much time with my boys as I can.

I want them to have the best future they can.

I want to do whatever I can to make that happen.

I want to have the best relationships with them I can.

I want them to be the best men they can be.

I want them to learn from my bad choices.

To not go through what I’ve been through.


Do I want to be a freelancer?

I’ve been thinking about this for years now.

I think it’s what I want to do.  Or at least where I want to start.

I’m scared, though.

Will I be able to get jobs?

Will I be able to support myself?

It’s so different from anything I’ve done before.

That’s what scares me.

It’s also what makes me want to try it.


It’s been a while since my last post.

I’ve moved out of our apartment.  Into my mom’s basement.

I’ve only spent one night there.  A long night.

I’m still staying at the apartment most nights.

I got a new laptop.  The old one kept overheating.

The wi-fi connection on the new one is flaky.  I’m not sure why.

No job yet. I’m not sure what to do about that.

I ought to start a business.  I’m not sure I’m up to it.

I need to do something, though.


Earlier today I read James Altucher’s article, Do You Want To Have Money or Impact?  In the article he says, “I tell people who want to learn to write better to check out a site called Quora.

I’ve visited Quora before, looking at answers to other people’s questions.  Today I decided to try answering a few.

I hope I did more good than harm today.  I guess there’s no way to know.  At least not yet.

It felt good, though.

Quit social media

This video is going to be tl:dw; for a lot of people.  I wonder how much of that is due to social media addiction.  😉

It’s a TED talk by Dr. Cal Newport on the dangers of using social media.

The main points he makes are:

  1. Social media is a slot machine in your phone (or computer).
  2. You don’t need social media to succeed professionally.
  3. There are harms associated with using social media (anxiety, fragmented attention).

Here’s the full talk, for those of you who still have attention spans.

Is there anybody out there?

I deleted my Facebook account a few days ago.

I made a post a few days before I deleted it.  I let people know I was going to do it.  I gave them my blog url and email address.

I haven’t gotten any emails.  Not from friends, anyway.

I don’t know what anyone is doing.

I feel cut off.

…are you still out there?


Drowning in a sea of social media

If I’d stayed on task I’d be done by now.

I meant to spend the day packing.  Instead I spent the day on social media sites.


It’s embarrassing.

It’s frustrating.

I’ll never accomplish anything if I don’t take care of this problem.

I think it’s time to leave social media behind.


I hate moving.

I started moving stuff as soon as I could.  I didn’t want to be scrambling at the last minute.

Moving my things hasn’t affected my emotions.

A few days ago my wife had my kids start packing, though.

That got to me.

My boys they were oblivious. “Dad, can you tape this box for me?”

It made it real for me.

They’re leaving.